Rethinking goal setting - so that you meet your goals and enjoy doing it!
As we stand on the cusp of another year, the air is thick with resolutions and ambitious goal-setting. We've all been there – drafting lofty objectives, only to find ourselves overwhelmed and disheartened when they aren't met. If this sounds familiar, then this blog is for you.
Over the years, I've embarked on numerous goal-setting journeys, tried and tested various methodologies, only to realise that the traditional paths often felt misaligned with my own aspirations and values. Through trial and introspection, I've crafted my unique approach to goal-setting, which I believe can resonate with many of you.
The Traditional Approach: A Quick Overview
Across business, sports, and understadning human psychology the virtues of goal-setting are clear. And I’m definitely on board with goals, I feel rudderless without them. Goals help in many ways, enhancing motivation to boosting self-esteem, and there are numerous styles and approaches. Having “grown up” in the corporate world SMART goals were a staple of mine (specific, measurable, achievable , relevant, time-bound) yet i never really stopped to ask myself whether they were the right approach for me…
Yet, having set and missed goals, celebrated wins that felt hollow, and navigated the maze of my own lofty aspirations, I realised that there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach to goal-setting.
The Journey of Self-Discovery
When I paid attention to my experiences they became valuable lessons, showing me what worked and what didnt, and providing me opportunity to create new ideas, qualities and ideas to further my own success.
One significant departure from traditional views on goal setting has become my emphasis on the journey over the destination. While many laud the outcomes - ever heard of setting BHAGS (“big hairy audacious goals”?!) - I instead found a more achievable goal was the right level for me, accepting my overall progress may be slower than others as a result. While I had previously focussed accolades or external validations, I’m now learning to love the process and stay open to what it might bring (I’ve had some wonderful surprises that I could never have set a goal around, and keeping my goals loosed means I stay open to more of those unexpected treats!)
Another divergence was the celebration of small wins. In a world obsessed with “top CEO” or “30 under 30” or “making 6 or 7 figures / year”, acknowledging minor achievements became my source of motivation. It wasn't about monumental leaps but consistent strides, recognising that each step, no matter how small, was a testament to my resilience and commitment.
Redefining Your Goals: A Call to Experimentation
If my reflections resonate with you, I urge you to embark on your journey of self-discovery. Experiment with different methodologies, observe what ignites passion, resonates with purpose, and aligns with your values. Remember, the goal isn't conformity but authenticity – crafting a goal setting approach (and path) that is uniquely yours.
For those intrigued by my approach, I'm thrilled to offer my Reflection and Goal-Setting Workbook. Delve deeper into my insights, exercises, and strategies that have shaped my journey. While it's crafted based on my experiences, I encourage you to adapt, modify, and mould it to suit your own aspirations.
In Conclusion
Goal-setting, at its core, is a deeply personal endeavor.
While the world offers myriad methodologies, strategies and approaches, the truth is you have to experiment and work out for yourself which one or ones work best for you. My own journey, has culminated in a goal setting process that feels right for me, for now!
After all, in the words of Tony Robbins, "Setting goals is the first step from turning the invisible to visible." Here's to making our visions a tangible reality, one step at a time.
Until next time, stay curious.
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